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Higher Alignment supports us discovering our true creative nature. The more we become conscious of our patterns, processes and essential contribution to others, the more capable and fluid we will be. When we can effectively discuss our natural ways of operating, we cease to be reactive when others don't do what we expect. Instead, we respond with suggestions that may work better for everyone.

Higher Alignment demonstrates that each person can learn to recognize with whom they are creatively and spiritually aligned. We call this experience of alignment congruence or creative resonance, and the result of aligned compatible interactions, synergy. On instinctive levels we have learned from peers to use excitement to guide our connections. On intellectual levels, society has taught us that intensity lets us know where our common interests and lessons reside.

Finally, on intuitive levels we suggest that you use enthusiasm to guide you in selecting the most creatively aligned partners. By prioritizing and honoring our conscious intuitive motivations of trust, unity and conscious participation over our self-centered intellectual goals or unconscious instinctive impulses, we enter the path of enlightened relationships. This re-prioritization can also be seen is emphasis is actually being together, without goals, over goal oriented time spent relating or doing things together.

Enlightened choices about partners are supported by knowing who we are, manifesting our life work and developing the intuitive skills to operate with awareness in relationships. Higher Alignment seminars comprehensively explore these issues in discussions over 28 nights, providing the framework for healing, self acceptance and discovery. It turns out that our relationship problems can all be traced to three areas of mis-alignment in our lives: romantic associations, personal creative self expression and core skills. Accordingly, after the first introductory seven nights, we spend seven nights on each of these areas.

Preparing ourselves to be in more enlightened relationships requires that we perform a self examination process regarding our creative expression and how it is received by others. The less authentic our expression is, the less we attract others that will meet and engage us on a creative level. We end up with partners who are just as confused as we are. Deeper examination of these issues allows us to separate who we were told we were and who we accepted ourselves to be, from who we actually are.

Many times we cut ourselves off from our natural creativity in order to do things in ways others will accept and appreciate. When we forget who we are, we deal with others on the level of superficial appearances only. By believing what other's say about us, we are caught in the trap of denying who we really are.Being lost in the process of seeking endless outside affirmation makes us only comfortable with individuals with the same problem.

As we learn to be successful in careers or as homemakers, we begin to define our relationship experiences into positive or negative qualities that end up separating us. Being right becomes more important than seeking a mutual solution, and independence and self reliance is seen as a virtue that over rides cooperation. This exclusive intellectual approach encourages us to clearly differentiate who we are from our partners through differences in values or principles. This empowers defensiveness and creates aloneness. The trap is that we identify ourselves as our extreme positions, eliminating the possibility of intimacy and mutual growth.

While honoring half of who we are may be getting closer to our true creative expression, it does not go the final mile of learning to be yourself without compromise. The final step is to declare ourselves as autonomous, co-creative beings with specific, unique ways of expressing ourselves. Nothing is as powerful as a person aligned with their truth and in touch with their creative source. An aligned being has a naturally irrepressible way of being that cannot be halted or denied. Their passion carries them forward and their spirit automatically guides them to their goal.

Higher Alignment discusses seven unique types of creative expression on two different levels that create 49 unique life work combinations. When we are able to identify our own true creative combination, our work and expression become effortless and joyful. Most important is the unique way others respond to the creative power we feel being ourselves. It is only when we know ourselves as we truly are, that we begin to see others for who they actually are.

Enlightened relationships are based on intuitive recognition of energetic awareness, wisdom and aliveness. Awareness about our creative flow with others permits us to consciously enhance our ability to accomplish things together. Three intuitive compatibility factors- Pacing (relative assimilation speeds), Process (our sequence of thinking, feeling and acting that we use to assimilate experience compared to others) and Approach (our decision-making style relative to our partner) best describes our experience of alignment, congruence and creative resonance. When we know how we engage others using these creative distinctions, we will also learn to be effective with others who are not aligned to us.

Effortless, harmonious relationships become reality when we learn to choose partners from the top down, focusing on higher level attractions first. Higher Alignment teaches how to intuitively identify 14 compatibility factors to guide our choices in romantic, friendship and business partnerships. When we become clear about the patterns that we call our self identity, we discover the spirit that animates us. Compassion for ourselves leads to compassion for others. Less reactive and more responsive communications, commitments and synergy are the results. Learning compatibility factors initiates us into the world of conscious interactions.

Lack of engagement, unilateral action or polarization are the primary results when we operate with others without the benefit of using and understanding compatibility factors. Superficial behavior, interests and intelligence are the basis for believing we need others. The exchange of favors and the acknowledgment of lower attractions leads to deeper entanglements that deny creative alignment. Our goal is to use our knowledge of compatibility information to appreciate differences and uncomfortable similarities, transform our interactions.

Higher Alignment supports individuals and couples in enhancing their spiritual connection to themselves and others by teaching autonomy, intimacy and creativity skills. As a result, we learn to look inside rather than outside for the answers we seek. Neutral Common Ground is created in a relationship when we establish clear, authentic boundaries, create our own safety and security, and embrace higher opportunities for mutual growth. By practicing the techniques of Neutral Common Ground, individuals learn to transcend incompatibilities.

This approach teaches us how to separate and clarify who we are as a co-creator in the world from what we do or say. When we believe we know who a person is from their behavior, we are not looking or seeing beneath appearances. Co-creative individuals see everyone on three levels. The first level is who they want us to believe they are. The level under this outer facade is their defensive identity, which is who they fear they are. Finally, under all this is who they actually are.

Co-creative individuals honor their intuitive knowing about others on all three levels to guide their interactions. Due to their own inner knowing about their own patterns, they are compassionate about the challenges and fears of others. They don't invest energy in maintaining appearances, they recognize that this is the trap that keeps us from solving our problems and confronting our fears.

Rather than operating from superficial attempts to walk our talk, let us release ourselves from having to prove how great we are. Unhealed wounds sabotage our life purpose and relationships. When we believe we must be some way we are not in order to be accepted or acknowledged, our pretenses increase. When we become attached to needing to be needed, we choose partners that fall in love with our defenses, not us. Both pretenses and defenses keep us from loving relationships where we are met and seen for who we truly are. These walls produce dependency, inertia, boredom, and depression.

Unfortunately, we end up seeking easy, comfortable and familiar patterns because we are not really committed to confronting the truth about ourselves and where we are not growing. Have you had enough of these old patterns? Are you ready to heal yourself by going into the fears, and investigating the incidents where these behaviors were created? Simply stated, we need to re-acknowledge and own our ability to source our lives and modify any aspect we want to change. Our spiritual, creative power can do this.

We must integrate our fragmented personality (so we stop sabotaging ourselves) and honor our higher knowing or creative source as who we really are. It means that we need to know that we are not our defensive identity or personality. To the degree that we believe we are our personality, we are at the effect of others in relationships. When we see and accept the reality that our pain is caused by compromising our lower personal self identity, it empowers us to detach ourselves from superficial self judgments and deepen our understanding about what inspires us.

The more we honor our higher true creative identity, the more powerful our connection to our spiritual source. Higher Alignment accomplishes this by revealing the patterns and levels of our defenses so we can assume ownership and heal them. This leads to a direct knowing of our higher creative being: first as a healer, and then as a conscious participant and co-creator with others. Until we heal these distortions of perception, we end up seeking partners that we believe will take care of us, but who are typically unable to do so because they are not healed themselves.

Letting go of our rigidity, expectations and assumptions allows us to go beyond appearances and their apparent needs to actually contribute in ways that serve another soul or spirit. Paradox and playfulness are the primary indicators of a creative soul connection. Being able to embrace complexity and see the elegance and simplicity of the underlying principles is the gift of authentic self acceptance. Paradoxically, it is only when we are in tune with our true spiritual source, that we have enormous capacity to relate to others in ways that work for them on a spiritual level.

Higher Alignment clarifies our choices and empowers us to be more effective in manifesting our higher relationship intentions. Conscious relationships support authentic self expression as the foundation for mutual action and alignment. When we know how to see one another for who we are, and interact without carrying our history in front of us, the possibility of Spiritual Partnerships becomes manifest. Unfortunately, many attractions drive us into entangled relationships where defenses and pretenses prevent intimacy and mutual growth.

Higher Alignment believes the we already know our inner truth, and that this work is only a reminder that we can trust our inner evolutionary processes. While Higher Alignment does provide a map about what works and doesn't work in relationships, we view these prescriptives as suggestions and guidelines, not rules or critique. The basic terrain of Enlightened Relationships is covered in our seven introductory nights. The bridges to this new world are our weekend workshops.

Enlightened relationships are not only possible, but practical when using the intuitive tools from the Institute of Spiritual Partnership. Twelve years of research and testing have created a proven path that provides the information, experiences and skills necessary to turn your entangled relationships around. Higher Alignment was founded on the pioneering work of The Insider's Guide To Enlightened Relationships which has supported thousands of individuals since 1990, in enhancing and uplifting their relationships.

Join the Higher Alignment organization in their quest to share this information with others. Singles will benefit from the intuitive compatibility training that can lead you to identify aligned partners in just a few moments. Couples can use the information to deepen their alignment and understanding of each other. Using Higher Alignment tools does not guarantee success, but it makes it more inevitable. Our simple goal is to increase the number of enlightened relationships in our world so that we may begin to create a more conscious, empowered society.